Good Anger: How rethinking rage can change our lives
'A marvellous book ... enhances our understanding of ourselves and others' IRVINE WELSH
One of the best books of 2025 – The Independent
We are used to complaining there is too much anger in the world. But what about the cost of having too little? And what if, instead of fearing anger, we learned to use it wisely?
In Good Anger, journalist Sam Parker investigates how one of our most complex emotions became a taboo and the cost that suppressing it has on our mental and physical health, relationships and society. He argues that, rather than trip us up or fill us with shame, anger can be turned into a life-enhancing source of bravery, purpose and self-respect.
Drawing on insights from psychology, ancient philosophy and emotional science, Parker looks at the gendered expectations around anger, how repressed rage shows up in our bodies, and the crucial role processing anger plays in treating depression and anxiety. We learn how understanding anger can improve every facet of our lives, from love to creativity to professional success.
This provocative and seemingly counterintuitive book is for people-pleasers, conflict avoiders and self-improvers. It reminds us that embracing our emotions – even the ones that scare or confuse us – can help us become stronger, happier people.
PRAISE FOR GOOD ANGER
‘There’s a lot in life to be angry about, and we shouldn’t be repressing that. The distinction between bad anger and good anger is a crucial one. A marvellous book which enhances our understanding of ourselves and others.’
– Irvine Welsh, author of Trainspotting and Filth
‘Sam Parker’s examination of anger is thrillingly incendiary – and has never been more needed than now. I haven’t been able to think about anger in the same way since.’
– Alice Vincent, author of Rootbound and Why Women Grow
‘Compulsory reading. Grounded in wisdom from across time and culture, Parker offers us a variety of enlightening perspectives on this complicated subject. In today’s maddening world dismissing anger simply isn’t an option, we have to learn to live better with it.’
– Dr Aaron Balick, psychotherapist and author of The Psychodynamics of Social Networking and The Little Book of Calm
‘A generous and rigorous exploration of an emotion we could all do with understanding better.’
– Natasha Lunn, author of Conversations on Love
‘This book is wise in the way a good therapist or a clever friend is wise – it leads us gently towards our greatest fears and reveals that the thing we’re taught to suppress might be the key to making our lives infinitely better. It is quietly, gently revolutionary and crucially, it will give you the confidence to turn anger to your advantage. It is one of those books you’ll want to buy for the people closest to you to let them in on the secret. Because this book isn’t just about anger, it is, above all, about hope.’
– Kate McCann, Times Radio
‘Anger is not the problem, it’s how you express it. Expressing it properly is hugely beneficial. The how is a little harder, but this is an eloquent explanation of how you can do just that.’
– Daniel Fryer, author of How to Cope with Almost Anything with Hypnotherapy
‘A delightful dive into our most maligned emotion. If you feel angry – and the whole world seems to be right now – this book will help you understand, and perhaps feel better about it.’
– Oliver Franklin-Wallis, author of Wasteland